4 Jun

He wasn’t good enough for me, but he’s good enough for you? It was only this week I was with my girlfriend, browsing the West End, when we started to banter about men. I informed her about a poppas dude that tried to woo me, who had much charm and whit, but his character was just a bit too controlling for me! He had everything from money to a coinciding career aims as myself, but his controlling nature and ‘I have money’ attitude, didn’t quite cut it for me!
Although to some women, (who in my eyes are shallow) will cling to a guy who has money, to get the most out of it, from free meals, cars to even all expensive paid holidays ( I have encountered a few). I simply don’t need a man to do any of the above for me. If I want to go on holiday, or eat at a nice hotel, I will work hard to pay my way.

On a few occasions, he used this method on me, and quite rightly apologized after I ignored his array of text messages, conning me into a job most women, within the media field would die for, to excuse his controlling nature.

So this rendezvous tiff soon came to an end, but for most women, you’d expect this to be a turn off, but for my girlfriend, she was rather interested. It had nothing to do with money (Solely). But she liked the fact he was controlling, wore skinny fits and used to model for Models1, she said, he would be the right kind of man for her, because she needs a man to control her????

ALARM BELLS! Well, if I don’t see him fit enough for me, why the hell would he be fit enough for you? This is the question! I personally cannot understand why any woman would want a controlling man, it goes beyond me. Relationships should be an equal partnership, with the man leading and woman supporting. Control and leadership are two different things, that are meant to blend subtly into each other, not one outweighing the other!

So my question and dilemma now, is do I hook them up! In my right mind, and current mental state! I say no! But I’m interested to know your views!



Playlist – Jazmine Sullivan – Switch


7 Responses to “SWITCH!”

  1. khaye June 4, 2010 at 1:53 PM #

    well i am a man and i dont agree that a dude should be controling but at the same time my view is that i u treat a relationship like a partnership then inevitably like all partnerships it will draw to a conclusion my view is a relationship is a bonding of 2 people from difrent or similar backgrounds with a common goal which i feel should be to better each other, to grow with each other and to be there for each other and must be based on a mutual trust which must be earned not given and which must grow as you delve deper into each other. thats my view on relationships anyway. ill leave it ther for now lol

  2. Steven Coker June 4, 2010 at 1:59 PM #

    Yeah why not? Hook them up, as long as he not a physco and you know he will be good to her (beside his controlling flaw)….but however your doubt for not hooking them, is that real reason that you wouldn’t want to or is there something else? lol

  3. TaffyBoii June 4, 2010 at 2:00 PM #

    Well i do agree that there is a difference between leadership and control, but to be fair it is a very thin line, one that most would find it hard to spot the difference. I would say if your friend really thinks he’s the man for her, and based on how you see the man feel that he would also be good for her, then as long as you can hand on heart say it would not be an issue for you hook them up and let them decide their own fate. Remember one mans meat is another mans poison.

    Taffat Jama
    Keeping it fresh like dairy and sweet like bee’s…Its Milk&Honey Media

    • Princess Court June 4, 2010 at 2:19 PM #

      Well if you’re really concerned about him and his intentions then I think you should probably keep them away from each other. However, if there’s the chance that they could be the other person’s soul mate, you wouldn’t want to live your life knowing you possibly separated two people who are perfect for each other.

  4. anonymous June 4, 2010 at 2:35 PM #

    You Can Lead a Horse to Water but can’t make it drink!! Famous saying but true!! I personally would be straight up with my girl but if she is still feeling him then thats up to her but you make your point clear!! Don’t get involved and leave it for them to make decisions on where it goes from there. Let her get involved if she wants to.. i wouldn’t go out of my way to hook them up.

  5. Jerome Peterson June 4, 2010 at 2:39 PM #

    I think you’re right steph a relationship shouldn’t be controlled by a man, but some women sign up for that. I think they’ll feel that type of guy is for them to keep them under control. Some girls here in the states call it holding them down. I guess so they don’t fly away.

  6. iL.LoJik June 4, 2010 at 3:53 PM #

    As her friend, because you do not agree with it, you are entitled to NOT hook them up… directly…. But accept what you cannot control i.e the stupidity of humans and let them hook up if it happens. If she wants to do it let her, it’s not yours to control 🙂

    I wondr if she can see this hahah

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